It all started back last Fall when I felt God calling me to blog here at Hunt & Host. He provided thoughts, ideas, cheerleaders, prayer partners and funds.
If you don’t blog and are reading this you might feel like checking out, but please don’t. These bloggy lessons are life lessons.
So here are a few things I learned through my new adventures….
You have to put yourself out there.
As conferences approached I found myself feeling like an anxious middle scholar scared of the playground bully, or even worse, a raging pack of mean girls. What if no one liked me? What if no one talked to me? What if I had to sit at the lunch table by myself? These were real thoughts people!
So I reached out in the Facebook groups that had formed online. And I said how I felt. And I wasn’t alone. And I had friends before I even stepped foot in the hotels. And we are still friends.
Truth…combined attendance of about 1200 woman and I didn’t have a single negative encounter.
So if this fear is holding you back from attending something, conference or otherwise, please trust me…if you put yourself out there it will be ok. Better than ok. It will be amazing.
Loose the schedule now and then.
Both conferences had tight schedules, jam packed with interesting session topics to choose from. I had my schedule printed and ready. I pre-planned when and where to meet my new friends. I was organized, out of total fear.
You know what some of the best moments were? The unscripted ones. The time I got separated from my pack and sat with a new group of ladies at breakfast, or the time when a small group adopted me in paint class. Then there were the sessions I went to for fun instead of business like I had planned. Living off the grid for a bit can be such a blessing. I need to try it more often, you miss the good stuff when you’re overscheduled.
I highly recommend this tip.
Be Authentic. Be You.
Sounds simple enough right?
This world is filled with comparison and as nice as every single person was I still found the weight of what other’s were doing breathing down my neck at times. “She posts to Facebook 15 times a day and has 1 million followers. So and so only posts twice, doesn’t follow anyone and has 2 million followers.” “Her outfit is so hip and mine is so grandma” “She tells funny jokes and I am so boring” Looking around at what other’s have going on can be good in moderation for inspiration, but what works for them might not work for you.
Your blog readers, friends or colleagues can sniff out a fake a mile away. Not to mention the enormous task of trying to keep up a rouse that isn’t true to you. All the classes emphasized this important point. You are who God made you to be…take it an run.
There is no magic pill.
Confession time. I really expected to come home with a raging to do list that would need to be complete yesterday. You know what really happened?
Calmed down and took a breath.
After peeking behind the big green curtain in Oz I learned there is no magic pill. While I learned some incredible tips, made important business connections and lifelong friendships this might be the biggest light bulb moment. There is nothing that will make a million people follow this blog tomorrow, there is nothing that will make people like me better (except following tip number three above), there is nothing I can do in my own strength more than I’m already doing. We are all just chugging along, doing our best and the rest is up to God. He will bring the rain when he determines and blessings in His time.
And that makes me chill out and enjoy the ride.
Crazy I had to travel halfway cross country to learn this, but I did. I had to see for myself what everyone else was doing to know that they aren’t doing magic tricks behind closed doors.
I hope my lessons encourage you to step out in faith onto whatever path you’re called. You will likely find the lessons waiting for you aren’t what you thought they’d be.
Check out some of my friends blog here. The list is incomplete, but I tried to cover the friends in the pictures you see here!
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